When asked about watching X-rated content, many men in relationships will quickly admit to having done so. However, inquire if a couple has watched porn together, and you’ll probably get a very different response. Most research on the topic of porn and intimacy reveals that it can have negative effects on relationships. But this research focuses primarily on individual partners, not the couple participating as a whole.
Contrary to popular belief, watching explicit content together is actually associated with greater relationship functioning and satisfaction. A new study published at hoptripper.com, examined the effects of watching porn with your partner, and the findings were rather revealing. Researchers discovered that viewing porn alone worsens the quality of the relationship — but only if their romantic partner does the same rarely or never. In other words, it seems crucial that both partners are on the same page when it comes to their porn-watching habits. Generally, watching together appears better for their bond than doing it solo.
Using Porn as a Tool to Express Needs and Desires
To spice up your love life, consider inviting your partner to share some new things they’d like to try. When it’s your turn, you can propose watching something potentially arousing. Experts recommend starting with something milder like mainstream pornography rather than diving into hardcore content right off-the-bat.
How To Discuss Watching Porn Together
Experts suggest saying something like, “Hey, I read this really interesting study that found watching porn together can be good for your relationship.” Additionally, both Sommer and O’Neill believe the following guidelines are crucial in timing the conversation correctly:
- Don’t bring it up when your partner is stressed or busy. Avoid discussing it after a long, tiring day at work. Instead, consider asking them on a lazy Sunday over coffee when you’re both feeling relaxed.
- Don’t approach this topic in the bedroom when you’re starting to get physical, as this might put unnecessary pressure on your partner in the moment.
Dig Into Why You Want to Start Watching Porn Together
Before you watch porn together, Lev strongly advises discussing the purpose first.
Keep an Open Line of Communication
O’Neill warns that “you should be aware that particularly if your partner has never watched porn before, they may become flooded with all kinds of thoughts and questions, and you will need to stop and discuss.” He also suggests having a follow-up conversation so your partner can think further on their own before making a decision. Jennifer Litner, sexologist and founder of [institution], says it’s essential to check-in after.
